No new friends reddit Eta: volunteer for an organization that interests you on your free time! It’s a great way to get out in the community and talk to people. In school, I was introverted and shy and had difficulty making new friends. Even if you can get friends as an adult, it requires skills you probably lost if you was not very social. and my ex, stupidly, was my main friend the past 4 years. Maybe they had female friends but they drifted apart after they moved across the country for a new job. Several moves later, new job, new town, no friends 18 years later. Or when I go to office hours, I can talk to the guy/girl next to me. That's why so many friend groups revolve around work or school. I'm very new to dating and I wouldn't say I have an abundance of friends, but I do feel like I can provide some tough love on this question. No one. I feel like Im reading my story. Very recently cut a friend out of my life because being her friend and having inner knowledge of her life was like watching a building burn down with an entire family inside. In my experience, there are plenty of adults who would love to make new friends. I’ll admit I’m on the more introverted side and have been pushing myself to go to open events posted on Slack to try to meet new people, but it seems like the majority of folks have found their friends and parties to go to. I do have a hobby (rock climbing) that is social and could be an avenue to new friends if I am intentional about it. Looking back, it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Meet new friends throughout Aotearoa, New Zealand. I'm 31 and I don't have friends outside of my group of friends from high school. While you might not be that kind of a person, it might come off as that, there is a difference between having less friends one or two, or having no, the latter puts out a message no one is willing to keep OP around, Even if it's a fleeting thought, but it holds weight. He is super extroverted and doesnt seem to just "get it" as far as friendships go. Met a couple friends in my masters program and have a couple from highschool as well as our next door neighbors. Haven’t left home. My son in 9 and does the same thing. I‘ve made friends at wine tastings at our local wine shop, yoga, the gym, volunteering, work events, the dog park, small music venues. She would ask for advice on a topic, I’d give her 2-3 really good options, she wouldn’t follow the advice, and then complain about the results. Introverted but willing to make new friends and be more social online. I know a lot of people the don't really believe - or don't even really bother to think about it - who stick with their church because of community. it’s been really hard on my mental health & my social anxiety has only worsened, especially because i feel jealous and upset when i see everyone else hanging out and going places for fun. Paint, learn a new language, study a new subject, travel new places either locally, or, if you can in another country, learn how to walk a tightrope, get way into cooking or building your ideal physique- anything you want to try, try it. I never get invited anywhere. No friends all my life. Posted by u/CurLyy - 38 votes and 57 comments I can't escape this , no matter where I move I can't make friends. Many people in college make their friends in the first few weeks and the stick with them for the rest of the time. Hello, have been looking for new friends myself. No one reaches out to me to see if I'm okay. Maybe your friends feel the same way. Or when people are like "Psh I have no friends. i had friends when i was a kid, but when i turned 12 i moved to a different place and never managed to make any new friends. I still have 2 friends but they both have married/long term relationships and kids that take priority. Jul 29, 2024 · Has anyone who had no friends in highschool have success in making friends in college? What are some good ways to strengthen my social skills over the summer? Thank you! My friends have mentioned multiple times that they really enjoy talking with me, and I am often being invited to do stuff, I never talk about myself because I feel like it is rude to randomly shift a conversation into me, but if they ask me anything I'm pretty happy to respond! Mar 19, 2022 · I don’t have a job so no friends there. I’ve made zero legitimate new friends here other than my now-husband. The friendlier part of Reddit. You may even meet people too. Even though I have no friends I still think having no friends is weird. Sounds like you're on the right track. A free drink may be no big thing, but a new friend’s casual sounding brunch invite may be a big deal. Pretty much everyone wants more friends and a lot of people have no idea how to make friends when they don't have the exact same schedule as someone else for thirty-five hours a week. I almost never have anyone to talk too and if so they're all online. I’m so fucking lonely. Normally when I take classes, I can just sit next to a new person in lecture, talk, and start making new friends. Gots jobs, families, and existing friends and not enough time for any as it is. Chances are good that the newbies won't be retained no matter what you do. I have some work friends that I met through work but your post made me realize I haven't made new friendsI have kids and I'm friendly with other parents but I'm a young parent and I can't relate to the other parents I guess I need to do better. I’m a 59 year old woman and have not established one friendship in my new place. If I had one recommendation here it would be to find a volunteering gig (assuming you have available time) in a nice social context. 33 year old male. It might seem unfair that you're doing most of the work in the beginning, but it will pay off: Most people are pretty lazy about reaching out to new people, so they'll be thankful you're doing it. Most seem to be so caught up with their own lives and social media standards/norms. I feel like I’m the only person in the world with no friends. I see a bunch of acquaintances on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat use this hashtag and I don't get what they mean by no new friends when they just take pictures of random stuff with or without friends, new or old. Now I have a discord group full of friends. Poof, friends gone. My personal opinion is that if you don’t break free from your high school days and high school friend group now, you never will. Some days its ok. But I also don’t really care! I have great, solid friendships with the friends I already have in California and elsewhere. Friends that are based on common interests or hobbies, those based on drinking or the bar scene, friends based on work, etc. Ultimately the only thing you can do is reiterate the importance of socializing to build friendships, and self-help materials/counseling if she's resistant I recently spoke to a friend and she told me that Discord was a great place to be able to make friends and find new communities to hang out with. I run into the same barrier with online friends as I do with real life friends. I currently only keep in touch with 2 people which I feel like will be 0 in a while. Male. 29yrs. Also very selfish, has a hard time with strong negative emotions. I’ve had a really hard time finding a group of friends. We regularly host dinners and get people together to go to concerts. 816K subscribers in the MakeNewFriendsHere community. Personally I never had close friends so I will probably stay with acquitances and family until death. still clinging to the idea of finding a friends group that is right for me but this takes a little pressure off of me. If you feel ready to socialize, I would recommend starting with the people you are already comfortable with (your friends, family, etc. Personally I will focus on being in peace with having no close friends, as fixing it is too tiresome and likely unfruitful anyway. I make new friends and slowly drift away from old I am 23 (f) and have no friends. I moved to a new town 2 years ago. That is no one's fault and not a result of being antisocial It is socially acceptable to be antisocial in a sense that there is nothing wrong with the Irish Goodbye, or saying 'hey not going to make the party tonight. I sat next to a random person and just randomly had a chat Throughout school I had a small group of male friends, and although the friendship circles changed, a similar sized group continued into my mid 20s. damn i dont even list to khaled and ive been thinking no new friends for a while. When I first started my job, people did make an effort to get to know me but I have such a hard time talking to people that they just stopped. Now I don't have any who I'd call friends, just male acquaintances who I'm in no rush or desire to meet up with. I haven’t had many opportunities to make friends in my new home, and the combination of pandemic life and new fatherhood have killed my motivation to put myself out there meet people even as opportunities are again possible. And eventually, some of those acquaintances become friends. I had a ton of friends in high school and college but I am terrible at keeping up with people so we just kind of drifted apart when I moved away. We may feel loneliness, but that allows us to feel connection and love and happiness and peace. Heh. Ambivert here, yeah I'm happy with no friends, having lots of friends is actually an overrated thing, I don't like unnecessary drama in society, ambiverts and introverts are "enlightened" people, they know how bad society is, society is filled with gossip, slander, and other negative things, we just need a few friends who are compatible with us. If you’re looking for a loser friend that’s me. Just don’t be weird :) Thankfully she's headed into grad school soon, so hopefully she can build a more independent social circle there -- even if its a small one. I've had friends in the past, but I always felt unhappy in them. Members Online 35M looking for new friends to chat with daily I have a group of friends, that we would consider best friends, and have the vibe that we would die for each other, but if someone's success is apparent and at the same time lacking in the whole group, let's say 1 guy mastered cooking, then it would more of a "yeah, congrats" instead of actually being happy and pushing that 1 cooking guy to By your 40's, you're pretty set in your ways and don't make many new friends outside of work making them less friends and more colleagues. I have no frame of reference of friendship other than what I see on television, Youtube or what I can vaguely remember when I was in High school. Not almost no friends. I work 60-70 hours a week. No friends from high school, no friends from college. For me it's something too normal, I haven't had any friends for many years, and I don't blame anyone, I'm a horrible person, maybe what you need is to get to know new environments with new people. gg/hXBv8sG Yes me and I just turned 60yrs old. I'll make new friends, better ones, we'll build each other up. I find it difficult to get past the initial chat of meeting new people. On top of that, we lived in a fucked up day and age. I have never been more depressed in my life than when I lived there. If no family or friends are there, bring a selfie stick and take a few selfies of you in the gown outside the Royal Exhibition Building before the ceremony. When I’m off of work; I see a therapist for anxiety twice a month, I go to the movies, go out to eat at restaurants, go to the book store and browse, gambling at the casino, try to exercise by either going for a walk or bike riding, and go out to eat No friend, no partner, no therapist, no colleague, no pet, no home, no neighbor, only the nearby shopkeeper and now she hates me too. I’m 25F living in London and, as the title suggests, I have no friends. There’s a version of the Bumble app that is literally just for finding friends - not romantic - just finding new friends! I think that’s a great idea to try too. No, you don’t. As time goes on, the strangers in that group become acquaintances. That said, I do manage to make new friends every place I go, but it usually takes me a few Clubs are a much more social setting, and I can tell you that as a commuter, clubs have worked wonders for me and my other commuter friends. 😬🤦🏼♀️ He blocked me on New Year’s Day. For a long time I didn't know how to talk to anyone, but I feel like I've learned a lot and at this point I should have friends. OP were growing up in a broken world. Most people have their established friend groups already and it doesn’t seem to change much during early adulthood. I also run somewhat regularly and could join a running group. Invite friends and acquaintances to do things with you. It makes me think the person is strange and has something to hide or something wrong with them. i have small but great circle of friends but living in a small college town where youve worked in a bar as a cook and security for 10 years wears thin after awhile. Job, underemployed, aide for disabled aunt on the weekend through a gov program. I was so excited to make some friends in college, but nope! Now that I’m out, I certainly have no clue how to make friends. No one cares to know me. In the start it was very hard and did not know where to look. I used to have a lot of friends in high school but they’ve all found new friends and boyfriends that they prefer to spend time with. I'd recommend not stressing yourself out for others' sake. That may be the only free time she has open for a new friend for weeks. I’m so nervous to start university because I will have basically no one to text either if I don’t make any friends in uni which is likely for someone like me. The no friends, the family situation, and somewhat the finding new people to talk to but sucking at it. I do everything alone. Once you find a group of like minded people, you can go from 0 friends to like 5-8 good friends pretty fast. It seems having little or no friends is somewhat normal in today’s society. When I did make friends, it was usually just one person or someone who already had another friend group which lead to them abandoning me . The Reddit side of NZFriends. I likewise am headed to school again and I hope I can graduate with two or three new close friends. I feel like I have no friends. I either game, work, sleep or rot in my room. now i'm 18 and still no friends. maybe ill rethink the whole thing after im done with school and move to a different state I just want a few good friends to hang out with, party, go for movies etc. Members Online Yes, if you don't need friends then you don't need friends. Title sounds a little weird but I feel like it’s impossible to make new friends when you don’t already have a few friends and/or a very outgoing personality. But started to download quite a few applications and Reddit has helped me a lot with finding it aswell. I don’t need to see people regularly to have good friendships with them. Girl I’m in my early 20’s with no friends😭. At this point I have a few great internet friends and that’s about it. My suggestion is to start putting more effort into looking presentable in a way that feels authentic to you. Maybe they were traumatized by a girlfriend or female friend in the past and now generally avoid them. This goes for anyone. people do sincerely not have time for new friends. After sometime it worked out for me, but to be honest Nearby News has been helping me for finding new friends and forming I’m 26F as well, no luck in relationships and I can feel most of my friends backing away from me. They'll probably return the favor. Put forth suggestions about activities and take responsibility for organizing things. And honestly I do feel like I don't have any energy left to invest in new relationships. Additionally, I am done with school forever. Also check out r/JapanTravel . Incorrect. Yea get ready for reddit to continually tell you just to go to a bar to make friends…. I am ok with it now but sometimes i do struggle. while I still live in my home city and I am lucky to have retained some longtime friends from back then, Unfortunately I can be awkward as fuck and making new friends is hard. My good friend I’ve known forever actually just this semester met his current friends with benefits at a club. We have to step out of our comfort zone to find new people. The only thing I had to do that was remotely interesting was drive. It's like 100 members where it's totally unmodded cause I just find people who I like and add. I had a couple of acquaintances but I guess circumstances changed and well, it looks like we’re drifting apart. But other days, it would be nice to talk to someone. Join our new discord: https://discord. Exponential growth is a pretty big promise, too. Alright this is coming from someone who has done the whole "making new friends" thing already and I can't do anymore, I tried making new friends multiple times before and none of them lasted very long (granted all of them were only through text) but It's emotionally exhausting to get a read on new peoples personalities and talking to them and eventually getting attached but then inevitably Always happy to make new friends. No one in my phone who I can call or text. The unofficial subreddit for the video game Escape From Tarkov developed… I work from home, too! I used to have such close friends but after a divorce 18 years ago they went to the dark side instead of staying friends with me. I'm a major nerd for marvel dc, comics, plenty of other fandoms ,anime, music ,filmmaking and all movies/ shows, feel free to hmu or comment 1Y here at a large M7 program and wondering if anyone else is struggling with making friends / finding their crew in their programs. Posted by u/Brokarucci - 285 votes and 45 comments 44 here, no friends. You just need to find a hobby/activity you can get into, that involves regular get-togethers with others into the same thing. And i don<t want to break the heart of they guys i already hang out with. Ask a question or start a conversation about (almost) anything you desire. They are from my secondary school and everyone else has changed beyond recognition (new friends etc). I’m not a great looking guy I know that’s probably why I can’t make friends. Largely this is because I'm into social dance, but I'm sure there are other ways to do it. Band together with your friends and use your courage, wits, and cunning to uncover mythical treasures, defeat gruesome monsters, while staying one step ahead of the other devious treasure-hunters. We were friends for 16 years. But doing things like your advice is what makes me meet fun people and run into them more. Once ex's friend got into a new relationship, he stopped coming around as much. If you don't have any friends, it's probably because you haven't put in the required amount of effort to make friends. People argue but I like a family, and I tell them no-one whose here would be so if I didn't think they were a good person. However, two years ago I moved to a new country and in the span of these two years I didn't manage to make even one new friend. So no, I don't have any childhood friends. For me, this was 5 one-on-one friends, 2 mid-sized groups (3-5 people) and 3 large-sized groups (6-10). You prolly just haven't met the right people, I've always had friends but 2 years ago I had no friends in school no matter what the guys in my class just did not fk with me so I was very alone in school for like 2 years, then I went to college and was able to make friends by just approaching them then talking about myself, asking about them Yeah, I get frustrated when folk talk about how they have no friends, but then start talking about their partner, close family, or whatever. They could just be a solitary person. Move at your own pace. Shadow work, watching and changing my beliefs and thoughts, removing myself from toxic people, not holding onto negative thoughts etc. I have a partner who I love to death and is essentially my best friend but outside of him and family, I literally know nobody. Sure many (not all) of the folks were older, but don't be afraid to go outside your demo - ie as a 30 year old dude there is nothing wrong with being friends with a 50 year old dad who has free time with his kids now being out of the house. I'm 47 and find the opposite. I have a good job but no friends there. There a quote " That sandbox shit runs deep". I won't go into detail here, I'll keep it intentionally simple: I'm alone. I get along w everyone too I've always been like that. It just makes me sad. I just got done blocking a whole bunch of people from Instagram because I know they all hate me. i’ve been depressed this past year and i am currently trying my best to pull myself out of it. That's interesting. It broke my heart. I'm not perfect but I also know i'm not a bad friend so I don't really see a reason for me to have no actual in person friends other than me subconsciously not wanting them. I’ll probably delete this out of embarrassment. I'm just here thinking, I've next to no one. I honestly hate making new friends, I hate going through the whole tentative get-to-know-you stage, I hate the stress of trying to find your "people", I hate large gatherings, especially gatherings where I don't know anyone. Since… Maybe use snapchat or whatsapp instead as you said yourself you just want to use it to stay in touch with people and there’s no pressure to stay present on those apps. Nov 9, 2023 · For new friends it's different. Practically speaking: Meeting new friends Sign up for a well attended meetup group - easy way to meet people IRL and see who you are vibing with. I moved to a new city for college alone. Have a fun conversation about anything that is on your mind. I’m pretty late on this, but I’m 22 and have no friends as well. Spend all your time alone delving into anything that ignites your passions. no best friend. Ive been looking for solutions for 5 years since i moved to LA and even tho its a city with 10million+ people, ive never felt so alone. I Looking for new friends. They don’t contact me first and I have to push to hang out with them or I won’t get invited to things. One of which was having no friends or not as many friends is a blessing because it means you have more time to actually study and get good grades. We’re retired so maybe it was a bit easier, but we started off getting to know our neighbors first and luckily they are turned out to be awesome people I’m not saying it’s a cure all but it does help. Everyone here is highly professional. Covid only made matters worse for me as I was pretty much dead during online sems, and i did try making new friends for the past 6 months to no avail. I do not know where to meet new people and when I do I have no idea in how to hold and maintain a conversation. 146 votes, 28 comments. Call people, text them, let them know you are thinking of them. "Hey you, talk amongst yourselves"? I'll try to engage new viewers, but a lot of the time you get 3-4 posts even when directly engaging, before they go silent to watch the show. There's no rush and no timeline for your life. No friends, only social interaction I have is with people I work with. Well me, I haven't had any non-internet friends since I left college. We moved a lot, so just didn’t stay in touch. I have an issue with being social. No family or friends anywhere near. Members of my family rarely visit as well. If not, you can try joining activities like cooking or pottery classes to find people with similar interests, or ask co-workers if they want to hangout afterwork to grab food or go to some event. How do people make friends? Does anyone relate? Hey I'm looking for new friends to hang out with or E-friends as well. I'm sure that with the right approach, you can make new friends and date as well. Honestly I haven’t been able to find any friends. i feel like i dont fit in So when you meet people in new games after you add/friend request them ingame, you can say "hey I'll invite you the next time I'm on with my friends" and then the next time they join you can ask the new person if they wanna join the call with the pre-established group. But I’m much older. Decide on the balance you want to aim for and what you can reasonably sustain with the time you have. like great i have to be intoxicated to make friends…. You are not alone and you can figure it out- just remember most people are having a lot more problems than they want you to think- you're doing great dude. Besides my husband, I honestly have no friends. I’m pretty clingy if we hit it off well. As all the friends I previously had were not true good friends and treated me very poorly. It was exhausting. I'd rather have three friends who loved and cared for me than 40 who couldn't be bothered to make the effort. i know having no friends at any age is lonely and sucks, but i feel like having friends in your teenage years is especially important since those are the years you are really figuring out who you are and also with how stressful school can Hi u/Uglyhoe77, . Churches, if anything, offer a great community. Second this. You might make new friends or at the very least find somebody to explore with. I would recommend going. No outdoor activities because it was too cold for me. I’ve started planning my own (most likely) solo trip to Japan and I noticed they have monthly meetup threads so you can also try posting in there to meet new people to explore with. Bumped into him once in about a year. Many of the people I know now out of college are still best friends with the people that they were assigned to live in the dorms with. School is for learning Having very few friends and no friends there's a huge line. I had a friend back from high school but we drifted apart. 9M subscribers in the popheads community. Say hello and add a friendly comment to another user's post on the sub while you wait for someone to comment on your post! You'll make more new friends that way! You're also more than welcome to join our official Discord and Reddit chat channel to find friends! As a reminder, we strongly recommend: I have a few friends online but I’ve been trying to make more/new friends for awhile now but haven’t had much luck. If you are in post-secondary you can definitely still meet friends this way. and no group of peers that he hangs out with. You have to prove your worthiness to them. I just moved to a new city for college and I am naturally reserved and introverted but I don't mind talking to people and can somewhat hold a… Posted by u/sofengshui - 1 vote and no comments The last friend group I had, for seven years from middle school all the way through high school might I add, turned out to be incredibly toxic for me and after one fight a couple days into my freshman year of college, we just stopped talking. People are more isolated than ever and no one takes that epidemic seriously. I moved to a new country right at the start of COVID, and by the time restrictions started to lift my wife was in late pregnancy. I do have older friends but I see less and less of them and communicate less and less with them with each passing year. You could also start volunteering somewhere. ) and maybe starting to chat with people online. 93 votes, 11 comments. Go to your local community centre and look to see what kind of classes they offer (if they're open). Fuck me. It doesn’t mean that going from ‘no friends’ to ‘awesome friend group’ isn’t bastard hard tho. This last period has been so chaotic, I just crave the comfort of my established friendships. Think of it as a blessing lol. i’m not exaggerating at all when i say i have no friends. I have no friends to play with though is there going to be online matchmaking to play with randos or am i stuck solo cause all my friends dont want to buy the game cause they all say it looks bad or they are on ps4 so they cant I moved to a new city and have no new friends. Meanwhile here I am going over and above to see my ex regularly, support him, etc. That was almost thirty years ago. In college I used to make friends but here everything is getting so professional that now boredom is hitting me at its peak. And this seems to have been a pattern for at least the past 15 years or so. My husband is great and we are best friends but I need more than just him. All about pop culture, top 100, reality TV gossiping, new restaurants, tattoos, trying to keep up with genZ because I'll never grow old no matter who says I have to Then, I had my ex and his friends. I seriously have absolutely no friends at all. And in my case my 3 best friends are ones I've had all my life. Paralyzed in a car accident I'm 36 now. Hardly know the place because of college across the country and now I am graduating soon. I’m hoping to find a church and a bible study group to help me make new friends. The people I work with think I am one of the funniest and most genuine people they have met and my customers love me as well so I cant understand where I am going wrong. Having no female friends can mean a lot of things. I can't keep up with everyone, I haven't dated in years and have no energy. Feel free to inbox me. I feel left out and no one to talk too. I've had trouble making and (especially) keeping friends my whole life. No fun events to go to unless I wanted to drive 2-3 hours. People see me as an acquaintance that they catch up with once every few months and nothing else. Just saying life happens to all of us and it takes energy and will to reach out. 895K subscribers in the EscapefromTarkov community. I am an atheist, but I have to admit that cat_herder has a good point. I no longer want to hang out with them, but i have NO OTHER POSITIVE FRIENDS. We can send selfies if you are curious on looks (SFW). 6M subscribers in the popheads community. I just moved to Phoenix last year. Take a class, join an improve group. We noticed you are a pretty new Reddit account, so we just wanted to let you know to check out the subreddit rules here and maybe have a read through our Frequently Asked Questions - they make for fascinating reading! Hey it's not too late to make friends. i have one month left of my freshman year and the only thing getting me through is my boyfriend who is long distance. I have no one I'd call a friend, and it's been that way for 25+ years. What brought me this new friend group was my higher frequency. I got no friends left from childhood. I can't think of anything other than this. Afraid of / incapable of getting real job. He doesn’t have friends here either (not his hometown) but he doesn’t mind so much. My relationships have never lasted more then a month. This is a community dedicated to talking about having no friends, reasons as to why people may not have friends, and a place to have an honest discussion about loneliness. It’s ok if you need to adapt your skills, and learn to notice different cues, because slightly different things matter at this age than last time you had many friends. In order to make new friends you have to find people who are looking to make new friends as well. Weekends are the hardest. Don’t cling to your past because you’re scared. When I was in year 12 I was hanging out with the year 13 basketball players in my free lessons and they gave me a lot of advice. You know how people are all like "oMg i hAvE nO fRieNds" but turns out they have 1 friend or a partner or something? I LITERALLY have zero friends. It's a good idea to go for events, like seeing a stand up comedy show or going to the theatre, then maybe go for drinks or something to eat afterwards, then you can at least talk about what you experienced. No-one ever includes me in their plans, or joins my plans (going to an exhibition, music gig, day trip, pottery, you name it). If you like exploring you could always take up geocaching. Not every friendship will be a bff friend, but you can have close friends, good friends, hang out friends, acquaintances, work friends etc. For the last 10 years all of my friends have fallen away and despite me trying to keep up contact, nothing happens. It's too easy to lose friends for nominally good reasons -- moving, work, family. " Then proceed to tell me about how they went somewhere with a "friend" And I'm just thinking how I spent my weekend isolated and alone because I have neither friends or family. Now we have a kid and honestly no time to do a whole lot but I’m trying to meet mom friends now too from daycare and Facebook groups. During the ceremony, you get assigned seats so no one is sitting with friends unless they're lucky. I got great new friends now 😊 even if I didn’t move, I don’t think I would have a lot in common with my childhood friends now either. It seems no matter where I go or what I try, people just don't want to have new people in their friend groups or make new I am one of those people. So I had no friends with no way to make new friends. TL;DR : my old friends are depressing me, i have no clue how to get new ones, and i don't want to break the heart of the old ones. Generally I get on much better with the opposite sex. My best friends are the ones I've had from literal preschool. Im an elder millennial, which means I'm a Britney girl not so much a Taylor girl. We did have good friends in town about 15 miles away when we moved 14 years ago so I can’t say we knew no one in the area we moved to, but we have made a lot of new friends in our new town. No networking or building work relationships. Social intelligence studies have found that highly developed individuals don't see the need for time spent on socialization because it interferes with their own pursuits such as reading, music, learning This is good advice. My brother is a walk away but don't see or talk to him because I try not to go where I know I'm not welcome. The latest and greatest in pop music, all in one subreddit. I kept to myself in college, made no connections there either. . bad friendships from the past have been super damaging to me and i feel so much pressure to find nice, new ones. Because friendship is a two-way street and if she doesn't actively reach out to stay in touch, then her friends have no reason to think she's still interested in actively being their friend. It doesn’t bother me at all and I don’t think about it. So I didn’t get to go to an orientation or do any of the bonding stuff. I started college in 2020. I did -and still do- a lot of internal work. All I really have left are my family and people I talk to at work. I don't know how to make friends anymore and to be honest I like being alone most of the time. I have been through bad friendships all my life and have eventually ended up with no friends. I feel so pathetic and also just empty. Yeah, I have few workplace acquaintances, but that's strictly in the context of work. I still have my best friends from home, but no local girls to hang out with. I can't even go to fun events like Caltopia or random EDM events in SF because I'm too afraid of contracting coronavirus. Reply reply Here I am the only new college graduate and everyone else in my team is more senior than me. 1. I have other good friends but I now choose quality over quantity. All my friends I've only known for up to 5 years. This has been an on going situation in my life. I think we are meant to find new friends as we progress through phases of life. Please help me guys, i REALLY need it. I've moved a LOT post-grad. I completely relate. It takes work but it is so worth it. I want friends but social interactions make me uncomfortable and I feel like I struggle to connect to people. Thats not to say it can’t be done, but it is not easy when you are not required to be there, which puts a lot of pressure on your part to be fun/enjoyable to be around. No one owes you their time or should be expected to want to be your friend. I've always been a loner and antisocial but the lack of any close friends I feel like has taken a serious toll on my mental health over the years. I was watching this Kelly Stamps video which really hit the nail on the head. Our relationship is new about 6 weeks and he lives in another city so he doesn't actually know I have no friends. It takes time finding your friend circle. The problem is I don't really know how to navigate Discord and I have no idea how you're supposed to actually meet people on there. I know I could make friends here but I just don’t care enough to try. But I have no family, and no central location of good friends. You may never get that freedom agin. They want to reach out to you for advice but maybe they are hesitating. you can be happy By the time we split up, all of my friends were mutual friends with my wife so I feel like they're her friends first and have cut them loose. And groups of friends always are a clique as adding new people disrupts the stability of the group when unnecessary (IE: they are not a new romantic partner of their friend). I feel so sad and overwhelmed by this emotion. I'm 51 and I'm constantly making new friends. No one calls or texts. “People who know you well” could be a friend, but it could also be a neighbor, work associate, schoolmate, or someone else, as long as they aren’t listed elsewhere on the form (like as a verifier or family member). I have friends in my homeland. No one understands my problems , I feel so alone. I have many collegues and acquaintances but no friends. I’m 31 now. It feels so lame, and it feels like I’m trying too hard whenever I do try to make friends, because it’s somehow weird once you’re out of high school. This subreddit is for those who are looking to make some new friends… I'm not saying is your fault no no. Then you meet the friends of those friends, and before you know it, you have a social network in the old-fashioned, offline sense. Other than that, though it's local bars and applications to try to make new friends. For whatever reason the number dwindled to the present number of zero. His teacher actually wrote that he has no friends. Like when I meet new people I don’t have anything to talk with them about because I can’t relate to their fun outings and their international vacations with friends and that one While I like having my free time and consider myself an introvert I feel so alone at times. It's a clusterfuck lol. Since ,I am the only one of my age in the team i am having difficulty in making friends. I also am trying to make new friends and I’ve been looking into meetup groups and hobbyist classes (like archery or music) to force myself into positions where you have to talk to strangers. Now I have plenty of acquaintances and "work friends" but no real good friends. I have no friends. When I get home from work, I’m either playing a video game, reading a novel, or watching a series on television. No friends. Oh one more: I've met a lot of super nice older men and women through non-sport activities - namely beekeeping for me. I hope this intro doesn't sound rude, but I'm on my last straw with trying to make friends. Below I’ve typed my personality/games I play so lmk if your interested in talking :) Games: bo3 modded zombies,cs:go, no build fortnite, lethal company, palworld-i have a ton of other games but I mostly play these Wow. Trying something new may spark a new hobby or again help you meet people. 451 votes, 111 comments. I don't have friends for over 20 years and there is nothing wrong with it, when I felt the need for friends I had few friends, when I lost the need for friends I just stopped wasting my time on that, as long as you are happy with where you are you are good. Im new to helldivers never heard of it till the showcase and until last month wasnt interested but now im very excited. Life seems meaningless, and it’s hard to share things with my family, as they don’t truly relate/ have different boundaries and standards. For making friends try a new hobby every week maybe? I made friends at a ladies boxing class as there’s a lot of 1:1 activities so talking is a must. I have the option of moving, obviously, being able to work from home. They are all spread out, and I don't care to move. Maybe you'll make some friends in the process.